Pada zaman duku dalam tradisi Yahudi, orang menikah pada usia yang sangat muda adalah hal yang lumrah. Anak perempuan biasanya bertunangan sebelum mereka mencapai pubertas – sebagian besar waktu pernikahan akan berakhir ketika gadis itu mencapai pubertas, dan itu biasanya antara usia 8, 9 atau lebih, (Catatan: ketika seorang gadis mencapai pubertas sebelum abad ke 20), ia dianggap sebagai orang dewasa di sebagian besar tradisi masyarakat). Dalam artikel ini sebagian besar akan diutip sumber-sumber ilmiah untuk membuktikan bahwa pernikahan di zaman Israel kuno terjadi pada usia yang sangat muda, kadang-kadang gadis-gadis yang menikah adalah pra-puber. Tidak ada hukum yang melarang seorang gadis pra-puber menikah. Sebenarnya ketika Anda membaca lebih lanjut, Anda akan menyadari bahwa Mishnah memberikan persetujuan bagi seorang Pria untuk melakukan hubungan intim dengan seorang gadis yang telah bertunangan, kapan saja setelah usia tiga tahun.
Istri Ishak adalah Rebecca, ibu Yakub, dan Esua. Menurut perhitungan yang dibuat oleh Rabi Solomon Itzhaki (A.K.A. Rashi seorang sarjana Yahudi yang terkenal), Rebecca berusia tiga tahun ketika dia menikahi Ishak.
1. Rashi’s commentary on Genesis 25:20 says:
forty years old: For when Abraham came from Mount Moriah, he was informed that Rebecca had been born. Isaac was then thirty-seven years old, for at that time Sarah died, and from the time that Isaac was born until the “Binding” [of Isaac], when Sarah died, were thirty-seven years, for she was ninety years old when Isaac was born, and one hundred and twenty-seven when she died, as it is stated (above 23:1): “The life of Sarah was [a hundred and twenty-seven years.”] This makes Isaac thirty-seven years old, and at that time, Rebecca was born. He waited for her until she would be fit for marital relations-three years-and then married her.— [From Gen. Rabbah 57:1
[Retrieved it from this website: http://www.chabad.org/library/bible_cdo/aid/8220/showrashi/true]
2. Juga Johann Buxtorf mengutip Rashi bahwa Rebecca berusia tiga tahun ketika dia menikahi Ishak.
“Rabbi Solomon in his comment on Genesis, says that Rebecca, when she was married to Isaac, was but three Years of Age. His words run thus, ‘When Abraham was come from Mount Moria, he received the joyful News of Rebecca. Isaac was at that Time Thirty seven years old; and then did Sarah die. The time, from birth of Isaac to the death of Sarah, was Thirty seven Years, And Sarah was Ninety Years old when Isaac was born; and One Hundred and Twenty Seven Years old when she died: As it is said in Gen 23:1 . Sarah was one hundred and twenty-seven years old. Behold, the Age of Isaac was Thirty Seven Years, at the Time of the Birth of Rebecca. And when he had waited for her three Years, till she was fit for marriage, he took her to wife.”
According to this Account, Rebecca was a very notable Girl at three years of age. But that a girl of three Years old is fit for marriage, is maintained very plainly in the Jewish writings; particularly, in Emek Hamelech, in the following passage, ‘our blessed sags, of blessed memory, say, that a female is not fit for marriage, ‘till she is arrived at the Age of three years and one day.’ The Talmud supports these Sages here, in the part entitled Avoda Sara. And the Sanhedrin says, A daughter, who is of the age of three years and one day, is, by being bedded with a Man, lawfully married.” 
Sebelum melangkah lebih jauh, salah satu keberatan yang dikemukakan oleh beberapa Apologis Yahudi dan Kristen adalah bahwa mereka berkata, “bagaimana seorang anak berusia tiga tahun dapat mengambil air dari sumur?” Mereka lebih lanjut mengatakan, “seorang gadis seusia itu tidak bisa melakukan itu dia harus jauh lebih tua dari tiga tahun.” Pernyataan-pernyataan ini tidak menolak apa pun. Cara mereka membuatnya tampak, seolah-olah mustahil bagi seorang gadis untuk menarik 1, 2 huruf air. Tiga gadis tua mana saja bisa mengeluarkan 1, 2 cerekuruf air dari sumur
3. Selain apa yang telah dikemukakan tentang pernikahan Ishak dengan Rebecca, kitab Zohar, yang diterjemahkan oleh Daniel Chanan Matt juga menyebutkan bahwa Ishak menikahi Rebecca ketika dia berusia tiga tahun.
51. “She was three years old when he embraced her the youngest legal age a female can be-married. See M Niddah 5:4; Seder Olam Rabbah 1; Soferim, add. 1:4 Rashi on Genesis 25:20 Tosafot, Yevamot 61b, s.v. ve-khen; sekhe; Tov, Genesis 24:14.
Rebekah’s three years correspond to the three colors of the rainbow.
52. He engendered at sixty, generating fittingly… see Genesis 25:26. When Isaac fathered Jacob he was sixty years old, symbolizing the full sextet of sefirot from hesed through Yesod, thereby ensuring that Jacob would be complete. 
Seperti yang telah Anda baca, itu cukup jelas, fakta bahwa Rebecca menikahi Ishak ketika dia berusia tiga tahun. Selain itu, kami memiliki lebih banyak bukti dari Kitab Yuda ‘Mishnah’, itu memberikan lebih banyak referensi ke referensi di atas bahwa gadis-gadis seusia tiga tahun diizinkan untuk bertunangan dengan hubungan seksual pada usia tiga tahun. Meskipun dalam pernikahan Ibrani Kuno perempuan direkomendasikan untuk menikah pada usia 12, ada hukum di Misnah yang memberikan persetujuan bahwa setelah bertunangan Anda dapat melakukan hubungan seksual kapan saja setelah usia tiga tahun.
4. Jacob Neusner adalah seorang sarjana akademis Yudaisme di Amerika. Dalam Buku: ‘Hermeneutika Komparatif Yudaisme Rabinik: Seder Tohorot. Tohorot melalui Uqsin. ‘Oral Torah Yahudi yaitu Mishnah menyatakan,
M. 5:4 A girl three years and one day old is betrothed by intercourse. And if a Levir has had intercourse with her, he has acquired her. And they are laible on her account because of the law [Prohibiting intercourse with] a married woman. And she imparts uncleanness to him who has intercourse with her [when she is menstruating] to convey uncleanness to the lower as to the upper layer. [If] she was married to a priest, she eats heave offering. [If] one of those who are unfit [for marriage] has intercourse with her, he has rendered her unfit to marry into priesthood. [If] one of all those who are forbidden in the Torah to have intercourse with her, he is put to death on her account, but she is free of responsibility. 
5. Sebuah Komentar tentang ayat di atas, dalam Buku: ‘Sejarah Hukum Mishnaic of Purities. 15. Niddah. oleh Jacob Neusner, dikatakan:
M. 5:4-5 bring us to the next stage in the matter of the legal status of children, female and male. The girl three years and one day old is deemed capable of sexual relations, which accounts for A, B, and C. D. Presumably should not apply to M. 5:3-a; if the girl is unclean as a menstruant but is incapable of sexual relations, one who has (or attempts) relations with her is not made unclean as is one who has had sexual relations with a menstruant. E simply goes over familiar ground; since the girl can be acquired as a wife, she also may eat heave-offering. F. Follows, and G. Repeats what is already obvious. But H limits the matter. The girl is not held responsible in a matter of forbidden sexual relations. I is a minor gloss. If the girl is less than three years and one day old, we do not regard the sexual relationship as of legal consequence. The theory is that the tokens of Virginity are restored before that time but not afterword. 
6. Imam Anglikan Herbert Danby dalam Buku: ‘Mishnah: Diterjemahkan dari Bahasa Ibrani dengan Pendahuluan dan Catatan Penjelasan Singkat.’ Disebutkan bahwa seorang gadis berusia tiga tahun dan satu hari dapat ditunangkan oleh suami saudara lelaki dan dia dapat melakukan hubungan intim dengannya.
“A girl three years old and one day may be betrothed by intercourse; her deceased childless husband’s brother can acquire her by intercourse; and by connexion with her a man can be culpable by virtue of the Law of a married woman; and him that has connexion with her [while she is a menstruant] she renders unclean so that he conveys uncleanness to what is beneath him in like degree as [he that has a flux conveys uncleanness] to what lies above him’ if she married to a priest she may eat of Heave-offering; if one that is ineligible has connexion with her he renders her ineligible for marriage with a priest; if any of the forbidden degrees prescribed in the Law had connexion with her they are put to death on her account, but she is not culpable. If she is younger than this, it is as one that puts a finger in the eye.” 
7. Edward Hendrie juga menggemakan pernyataan yang sama yang dibuat sebelumnya
“Orthodox Judaism has a very permissive attitude towards sexual deviance. For example:Sanhedrin 55b: It is permitted to have sexual intercourse with a girl three years and one day old. See also Yebamoth 57b, 60b; Abodah Zarah 37a.
Kethoboth 11b: When a grown-up man has intercourse with a little girl it is nothing, for when the girl is less than three years old it is as if one puts the finger into the eye, tears come to the eye again and again, so does virginity come back to the little girl under three years.” 
8. Profesor Joshua A. Fogel dalam bukunya: ‘Traktat Membaca Avodah Zarah dari Talmud Babel.’ Dia mengatakan: ‘tumah zav’ adalah ketika itu terjadi ketika seorang anak laki-laki siap untuk hidup bersama. Kata Ibrani ‘zav’ berarti, Dalam terminologi Torah, kata Ibrani zav (lit. “flow”) adalah keadaan kenajisan ritual yang timbul dari pelepasan mani yang abnormal dari organ seksual laki-laki “(lihat Wikipedia.com). Inilah yang dikatakan,
“The orevious daf ended with R. Yehudah ha-Nasi accepting the view of R. Chiyya that an idolater conveys the tumah of a zav from the nine years and one day (not just one day). When asked about this age, he replies that this is the age at which he is able to cohabit and thus convey the tumah of a zav. If nine seems on the young side, it’s three for girls. In other tractates of the Talmud, these ages, especially for a girl, become extremely relevant, such as in determining what constitutes rape or marriage by cohabitation; I mentioned in here only because how shockingly young it seems to my (and probably most) 21st century eyes. It is Ravina who argues for age of three for girls, rather than from birth which was put forth by Rav Nachman bar Yitzchack on the previous daf. Ravina contribution is to match age cohabitation with age of zav (or niddah) tumah capacity.” 
9. Robin Grille
“Among the ancient Hebrews, betrothal by sexual intercourse was permitted with girls aged three years and day, and marriages for girls was actually recommended at 12 years of age. The Biblical woman and child were property, not persons. For the right to marry a pre-pubescent girl, one simply had to pay an agreed sum to her father. In India, child marriage was condemned by law until 1929, although around 80 per cent of the population was still practicing it.” 
10. Mary De Young
“The possession of Children by their parents was also given religious sanction in the teachings of both the Talmud and the Bible. Rush (1880) states that the Talmud teaches that a girl of ‘three years and one day’ could be betrothed through an act of sexual intercourse.” 
11. Profesor Geza Vermes yang terkenal dan cendekiawan yang disegani berkomentar bahwa gadis-gadis pra-puber diizinkan menikah.
“…the Greek parthenos could also mean that the girl was young and/or unmarried. In fact, in the Septuagint translation of the Old Testament parthenos was used to render three distinct Hebrew words, ‘Virgin’, ‘girl’ and ‘young woman’. Already Rabbis in the Tannaitic era (first to second century ad) subscribed to further nuances, and there is no reason to think that all these were invented by them. Even the word betulah, which normally means virgo intact, when used by them could carry the laternal sense of bodily immaturity with the consequential inability to conceive. In Rabbinic terminology this type of virginity in a woman ceased with the physical onset of puberty. The Mishnah, the oldest of the rabbinic codes, defines a virgin as a female who ‘has never seen blood even though she is married’ (mNiddah 1:4). The Tosefta, another early Jewish code of law, claims in the name of Rabbi Eliezer ben Hyrcanus (late first century ad) that such a woman would continue to count as a virgin even after she had conceived and borne children without prior menstruation (tNiddah 1:6)! To understand these statements, we must remember that in the InterTestamental and early rabbinic age, pre-puberty marriage was generally permitted. In fact rabbis seriously debated whether bloodstains found after the wedding night in nuptial bed of a minor, i.e. a ‘virgin in respect of menstruation’, marked her first period or the consummation of the marriage.” 
12. Pendeta Kathryn J. Riss juga menyebutkan bahwa pada abad pertama orang tua menikahi anak perempuan mereka yang pra-puber dengan pria yang jauh lebih tua. Yang menarik adalah dia tidak menyebutkan sekali pun bahwa para rabi atau siapa pun yang lebih tinggi dalam otoritas berbicara menentang pernikahan semacam itu..
“The longest New Testament passage on marriage is found, not in Ephesians, but in 1 Corinthians chapter 7. In stark contrast to the legal positions and social expectations of the first century, here the rights and responsibilities of man and woman are upheld as equal. Although marriages were arranged by parents, who often espoused their pre-pubescent daughters to much OLDER MEN…” 
13. Kamus Teologis Perjanjian Lama, oleh G. Johannes Botterweck, Helmer Ringgren dan Heinz-Josef Fabry menyatakan,
“One might counter that the expression mohar habbetulot (Ex. 22:16) refers rather to the pretium virginitatis. In this case, the mohar would be compensation to the girl for the loss of her virginity. This explanation, however, is unacceptable, since it proceeds on the assumption that the term betula means ‘virgin.’ This may doubtlessly be the case in many passages, but in joel 1:8, betula thus refers to a married woman who had been ‘possessed’ by her husband (ba’al); betula thus refers to a marriageable girl who was physically able to cope with a man, ‘taking her into his possession.’ Here the term betula says nothing about her virginity. Ex.22:16 (17) (kesep yisqol kemohar hab betulot) can thus be translated ‘he shall weigh out as much silver as is required for marriageable girls.’ In this context we should point out that ancient Hebrew custom did not associate marriageability with puberty. In contrast to the marriageable girl (betula), the…. Alma refers to a girl in puberty capable of conception. Girls could in fact already be given marriage long before actual physical maturity, perhaps even as young as five years old (cf. Lev. 27:5), and it did happen that marriages were already consummated with prepubescent girls. 
14. Zeʼev Wîlhelm Falq
“A more common practice was the marrying off of minor daughters by their fathers. For instance King Agrippa(s) (41-44 C.E.), left three daughters: ‘of these, one, Berenice, who was sixteen years old, was married to Herod, her father’s BROTHER, and two were unmarried, namely Mariamne and Drusilla, aged respectively ten and six years. They had been promised by their fathers in marriage, Marriamne to Julius Archelaus, son of Helkias, and Drusilla to Epiphanes, the son of Antiochus, King of Commagene’ (Josephus, XIX Antiquites, 9. 1. 354). In such cases, marriage and consummation would be postponed until the BRIDE REACHED PUBERTY: it was held proper to marry off a minor daughter with her consent and not against her will. However, these rules were not only applicable to a minor daughter given in marriage by her father, since his right to do so is expressly mentioned in the Torah (Exodus XXI 7; Deuteronomy XXII 16).” 
15. T. J. Wray
“In the Hebrew Bible and New Testament, marriage is considered the natural state for men and women, and although there are certainly instances where Jewish men (and rarely, Jewish women) are not married, this is the exception rather than norm. Most women marry quite young, usually soon after the onset of menstruation, which of course, heralds fertility. Men typically marry later (in their twenties, or even thirties) and this most men are older than their wives.” 
16. Harry L. Tabony
“BC. The good book of Genesis says that after a few generations Abraham’s progeny had grown to sizeable numbers. That is understandable, considering the practice of multiple wives and marriage just after puberty for girls. Abraham’s many sons could father thousands of children, considering ample girls available from the natives of Canaan.” 
17. Ensiklopedia Diaspora Yahudi: Asal, Pengalaman, dan Budaya, Profesor Mark Avrum Ehrlich menulis:
“Girls were often married to their uncles on their father’s side, or to their cousins, in order to secure the family’s capital and in the hope that their kin would take good care of them. Minor girls were betrothed by their fathers (by Kidushin, a legally binding commitment) even before they came of age, and usually began living with their husbands-occasionally much older than them- at the age of puberty.” 
18. Rabi Isaac Klein dalam bukunya: ‘Panduan untuk Praktek Agama Yahudi’, mengatakan bahwa pernikahan anak adalah hal biasa dan bahwa ‘usia bukanlah faktornya’ ketika seseorang harus menikah. Jadi dengan kata lain berapa pun usia gadis itu, begitu orang tua memberi jalan, gadis itu harus memilih suami, dia tidak punya pilihan dalam masalah itu.
“Child marriages were very common in ancient days. Since marriages were arranged by parents and the consent of parties was not necessary, AGE WAS NOT THE FACTOR in coming to an agreement. The physical factor related only to the consummation of the marriage. Hence, there was usually a waiting period between the agreement and the consummation. It is logical to assume that when a boy and a girl reached the age of puberty, and the sex urge demanded satisfaction, ancient society deemed marriage to be the answer. In time, other elements became factor in marriage: climate, social conditions, economic conditions, and even political conditions.” 
19. Old Testament Scholar Gordon Wenham
“In reality social custom and pressures greatly curtailed the sexual freedom of men in the Bible times. First, marriages were customarily arranged by parents, as soon as children passed puberty. This meant that there were few unattached girls: most females of marriageable age were either married or betrothed….” 
20. David M. Carr, profesor kitab Perjanjian Lama
“…ancient Israelite women did have to deal with a constant stream of pregnancies, from when they reached puberty in their teens until they died in their twenties or thirties.” 
21. Dr. Richard H. Lowery
“A typical adult Israelite male had a life expectancy of forty years. Infant mortality rates were high, perhaps as high as 50 percent. So women typically had two pregnancies for every one child who reached age five. Since the economic survival of the household depended on the production of able-bodied children, women married immediately after puberty and were pregnant or nursing for a relatively large portion of their life.” 
22. Saba Soomekh
“In the early twentieth-century, Iranian Jewish women married at a very young age, either when they reached puberty or by their fifteenth year or sixteenth birthday. Similarly, Jewish women living in Ottoman Libya were married once a girl reached puberty and under Italian rule, ‘women married when they reached their fifteenth or sixteenth birthday, but at times, the brides were much younger.” 
23. Steven M. Lowenstein Profesor Sejarah Yahudi
“The next great life cycle event in Jewish life after the bar Mirzvah is marriage. In most traditional societies (Jewish and Non-Jewish), marriages were arranged between families, with only the most perfunctory consultation with the couple to-be, and often involved complex financial arrangements such as dowries and trousseaus. In the middle ages the age at marriage seems to have been around puberty throughout the Jewish world. …” 
24. Ruth Lamdan
“The numerous references to child marriage in the 16th- century Responsa literature and other sources, shows that child marriage was so common, it was virtually the norm. In this context, it is important to remember that in halakha, the term ‘minor’ refers to a girl under twelve years and a day. A girl aged twelve and a half was already considered an adult in all respects.” 
25. Philip J. King
“A few anecdotal incidents, and a wealth of later documentation, suggests that women married young, while still in their teens, sometimes early teens, in fact; men waited until well into their twenties or even early thirties before marrying.” 
26. Ken Blady
“Persian Jews married off their children very early: boys at ten or twelve, and girls at the very tender age of six or seven. Some girls were mothers by age twelve or thirteen. Polygamy was practiced only by men who could afford more than one wife. It was common for a prepubescent girl to marry a man who was old enough to be her grandfather.” 
27. Professor Harvey E. Goldberg
“Habbani Jewish ‘women’ were almost always prepubescent at their first marriage. Their first husbands were often in their late teens. Normally, there was neither bride price nor dowry, but a groom was expected to provide wedding jewelry and seven goats for the wedding festivities. The jewelry became a woman’s property. Occasionally, the bridegroom was far older than the bride.” 
28. Jonathan B. Krasner mengatakan bahwa pertunangan terjadi pada usia delapan atau sembilan tahun, sekarang perlu diingat sebelumnya kami memberikan bukti bahwa sekali seorang gadis bertunangan, suami dapat terlibat dengannya secara seksual:
“Betrothal, or engagement, generally occurred at the age eight or nine. Jewish girls typically married at age eleven or twelve and boys at about thirteen or fourteen. (In Germany and France, Christian girls typically married at twelve or thirteen, and boys were usually in their late teens or twenties.)… (Marriage in Ashkenazic).” 
Siapa pun yang membaca artikel ini akan setuju bahwa Yudaisme di masa lalu mempraktikkan dan mengizinkan pernikahan pra-puber. Juga, pernikahan Ishak dengan Rebecca, semua bukti yang ditunjukkan adalah dalam perjanjian bahwa Ishak menikahi Rebecca ketika dia berusia tiga tahun. Apa pun yang dikatakan orang Kristen / Yahudi (modern) tentang Rebecca menjadi lebih tua karena dia mengambil air dari sumur, mereka tidak memiliki bukti bahwa seorang gadis dari tiga anak tidak dapat mengambil 1 – 2 liter air dari sumur. Saya juga memberikan banyak referensi bahwa Mishnah memberikan persetujuan bagi anak perempuan untuk ditunangkan melalui hubungan seksual pada usia tiga tahun
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Rabinical literature: or, The traditions of the Jews, contained in their Talmud and other mystical writings. Likewise the opinions of that people concerning Messiah, and the time and manner of his appearing; with an appendix comprizing Buxtorf’s account of the religious customs and ceremonies of that nation; also, A preliminary enquiry into the origin, progress, authority, and usefulness of these traditions; wherein the sense of the strange allegories in the Talmud and Jewish authors is explained. [ Publisher: London J. Robinson, 1748] Volume 1 page 33 – 34
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 Reading Tractate Avodah Zarah of the Babylonian Talmud By Professor Joshua A. Fogel page 84
Parenting for a Peaceful World By Robin Grille
Mary De Young The sexual victimization of children page 103
 The Changing Faces of Jesus By Geza Vermes
 Journey’s End: Removing Biblical Barriers Between Women and Their Destiny By Reverend Kathryn J. Riss, THM page 164
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